You look at a person in front of you and are unsure how to address them. In English, You works for all situations. In Hindi, it depends on the person you are addressing. Through this post, we’ll simplify how to say “You in Hindi” confidently.
The Core Idea
Hindi has three versions of “you” because relationships matter a lot in Indian culture.
The word you choose depends on 3 questions you need to ask yourself:
- Is the person you are talking to older than you?
- Are you close to the person?
- Is this a formal or informal setting?
Using Tum vs Tu vs Aap depends on your answer to these.
Formal You in Hindi – Aap
This is the most formal version of the three. Here’s when to use it:
- If the person you are talking to is older to you
- If you don’t know the person closely
- In formal settings.
If your answer to any of the 3 questions above are these, then it’s best to use Aap.
A good rule of thumb is to use Aap whenever you want to address someone respectfully. Also, in case you are confused, it’s always a good option to stick to Aap instead of the informal versions.
Informal You in Hindi – Tu / tum
Tum / Tu are the informal versions of you. Here’s when to use them:
- If the person you are talking to is younger
- If you know the person
- In informal settings
Tu / tum also have a slight nuance between them. Tum is the more polite version, while Tu is the most friendly version.
Here’s a method to determining whether to use Tum vs Tu.
If you’re talking to
- A person who’s younger than you
- AND you know the person
- AND are friendly with them,
Use Tu.
If you’re talking to
- A person who’s younger than you
- BUT you don’t know the person well
Use Tum.
In many cases, Tum is used until the ice is broken. Once you are famililar and friendly with the other person, you can switch to Tu.
One Big Cultural Insight (Very Important)
- Tu = closeness or power
- Tum = equality
- Aap = respect
This is cultural, not grammatical.
That’s why:
- parents may say tu to children
- bosses may say tum to juniors
- shopkeepers say aap to customers
Helpful cheatsheet
| Situation | Use This | Why |
|---|---|---|
| Talking to a stranger | Aap | Polite and respectful. Always safe. |
| Talking to elders (parents’ friends, seniors, older relatives) | Aap | Shows respect and good manners. |
| Talking to your boss, teacher, client | Aap | Professional and appropriate. |
| Talking to shopkeepers, service staff | Aap | Standard polite Hindi in public. |
| Talking to friends your age | Tum | Friendly, natural, everyday usage. |
| Talking to colleagues you are comfortable with | Tum | Casual but not rude. |
| Talking to someone you just met casually | Tum or Aap | Tum if informal setting, aap if unsure. |
| Talking to close friends | Tum (sometimes Tu) | Tum is common, tu only if very close. |
| Talking to siblings or childhood friends | Tu or Tum | Tu shows closeness, tum is softer. |
| Talking to someone younger than you | Tum or Tu | Depends on closeness and tone. |
| Talking during an argument | Tu | Often used to show anger or dominance. |
| Unsure what to use | Aap | You will never offend anyone with aap. |
Takeaway
As you understand by now, Hindi is a language built on relationships. Hence, understanding relationship dynamics influences how you address people.
You should be able to cover more than 95% of the cases using the cheatsheet above.
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